I think holland sucks because the people here are

+29 by User-szq54

I think holland sucks because the people here are very, very, very unwelcoming. I've been living here for about ten years and I still don't know any of my neighbours names. I'm a growing youth and i've spent well over half my life here and I still don't have any friends or people i hang out with. Without trying to sound overdramatic, I now find comfort in my own company. Holland has taught me to live without friends.
For a while I tried to make friends here in Holland, but it always ends in the same disappointing way, i’m treated like an outcast, or a fifth wheel, not even a fifth wheel, i’m the bird poop that accidently landed on the vehicle of the mechanism. In short, i’m treated like dirt and when I am rarely spoken to it is usually to ask me if I want a drink, and I say usually with love, I mean once in a four hour period of time.
The only upside I can find about this place is that nearby where I live there is a Rugby club, and here I found the only semblance of social contact I’m likely to ever get. They speak to me because i’m their teammate but I’m not invited to social gatherings, and i’m excluded from general conversation.
As i’m a guy I long for female attention, but as it stands i’ve never had a girlfriend, these Dutch girls are completely unapproachable. They’re beautiful, extremely beautiful but they never talk to me long enough to get to know me. I’ve been told i’m not like normal dudes, I don’t want to have sex, and I don’t want anything from them. All I want is for a girl to be my friend, someone I can speak to, who she can speak to. Instead i’m passed off as dirt because i’m not smooth, or because I don’t understand the language as well as I could.

Picture of User-szq54
-1 by Eko S

Perhaps it has to do with your own attitude. Not everyone can be wrong but you, neh ?If a whole country seems to be wrong it may have something to do with yourself.

Picture of Eko S
+2 by Dutch H

by the way, this was not meant except to Eko S

Picture of Dutch H
+4 by Vlad Florin T

Hello everyone! I do heard about this too. Holland people seem to be very unwhelming so as the germans especially with foreigners.I am from Romania( and im not a gipsy - ihope you all learn the difference between the gipsies that are from Romania and the romanian people) and my opinion is that work and so much care about it its uhhh. probablyits bcs of the country which i think lacks of resources. Here in Ro we dont lack of resources and terrain for agriculture or others but we lack of work.but u know whats too much its too much. better combine them both and get a healthy life style. even if we get 350-400 euros ( thats a medium salary here) income a month we know how to enjoy . i live ina flat and i must admit i know every neighbour from my block of flats and aswell 90% of the others 10 surrounding blocks of flats <- sorry if my english sucked now but im sure u understood! we are very socializing people. Coummincation is the solution. Sharing and meeting new people
thats how humankind survive. 10.000 years ago John and George in the jungle: John tells to George: Dude dont go forward there's a lion up ahead.i hope u got my idea.sharing and socializing helps people get together. but remember to choose your words well.It is all i had to say
Peace everyone!!!!

Picture of Vlad Florin T
-2 by levi

i don't know what you're all talking about, everybody on this site is talking like nowone in this country has any friends, and that everyobdy is a unbelievable racist douchebag, wll from 16 years of experiance i have'nt noticed that. it may be hard to socialize if you did not go to school here, that may be true but come on. you people should understand that this is not the same country as you used to be in, you expect to be in amerika or roumania, and you think that everybody will behave like they did in you're own country, i will say this to you, every cuture is differend, and i have to say the dutch one isn't the most social one but if you just try to integrate a little more you can just fit in.
and i also know 90%of my naighbourhood, that doesn't say anything just the amount of names you can remember, if you live in a blok with 100 people you shouldn't ecpect to know everybody.

Picture of levi
+1 by Bob

Lacking social skills ---> blame the dutch ---> genius...

Picture of Bob
+0 by John L

@Eko S; time to apply your own reasoning to yourself!
When most foreigners/expats end up hating a country, maybe the problem isn't with *all* its foreigners and expats, but with that country's way of treating ppl
But that another typical Dutch argument: blaming the messenger... or blaming anybody else but oneself.

Picture of John L
+1 by John L

@levi: you're being incredibly condescending. Don't you think that ALL foreigners and expats actually notice that they aren't in their own country once in the NL?
I've lived in several countries on 3 continents, some with cultures far more different than my own than the NL. I've traveled to more countries than i care to remember, and there are several countries I'd rather not move to if I can help it. Regardless, I've never hated a country before spending 3 years in Holland... I loathe most of the values of this country with a passion! And I'm not talking about trivial expat issues like disliking the food. From day 1, my family has been struck by how much effort is spent making *you* spit out money: from employers to landlords systematically abusing the lack of knowledge of non-natives to systematic discrimination and forcing everyone around to conform. I soon realized that almost always, if I was the recipient of some random act of kindness, it came from a foreigner.

Picture of John L

Your Reply

467,663,559 Opinions from 72,667,552 People Making Their Opinion Count


© 2013 Amplicate BETA

Amplicate does not endorse any opinion posted on the site. See terms of use.